Anonymous asked:

Been into sexfighting for a while, but now my boyfriend's starting to win regularly. Any tricks that might help me even the score?

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It’s not just physical – although that’s important too.

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Get into his MIND!!! What are his fantasies? Become them. What are your fantasies? Communicate them – make them happen! Mix sexfighting with other fantasies – sometimes do yours, sometimes his – and don’t be afraid to mix them – even in the same sessions. Vary things. 

Follow your feelings – genuinely enjoy it all and go with what your basic instincts tell you to do. Let yourself go. Show how you feel. Showing your pleasure through moans and words do lots to excite your partner.

Silent types in the bedroom might be cowards.

Talk to him through it – at least until you can’t talk. ;) Let him know how you feel.

Learn to read him, how he enjoys things. Let him know when he does good things too. Sometimes it’s just a sound – not even a word - that communicates.

Minimize the importance of the outcome – after all – it’s more a means towards great sex – which is the real reason to play in the first place. Score is just a goad to get to where you want – supreme satisfaction for you both.

If you win – don’t rub it in his face. If he wins, be gracious. You should be both free to win and lose and enjoy both.