Only with my husband. I ‘win’ about 2/3rds of the time if we both go all out. While I love coming out on top, a 'loss’ in that situation is also quite thrilling!
When your RL submissive takes back his ownership, even for a few days - it’s rough.
It’s not because I’m too gentle. That used to be a problem, but we fixed that. (evil smile) The problem was external stress. There are other external things going on which we are working on. I’m so used to owning him - it was upsetting. I enjoy being the one ‘in charge’ but you naturally think about what is right for him and what’s right for us. So I had to go along. I was so torn by this.
I now own him again and all is right with us. Now if we could just fix those other problems. I am hopeful that we will.
BTW, I’m proud of my submissive. I love him very much. It took years of play to find this surprising and sensual part of him.
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